“UGH”😫 What to Do When You Don’t Feel Like It.

Why “not feeling like it” is costing you more than you think—and what to do instead

This past Sunday, I didn’t feel like going to Costco.

There was a thunderstorm. The parking lot was wild, it was 3:45 pm. The couch looked really good.

But I went. Why?

Because I VALUE how I feel during the week more than I value the momentary discomfort of showing up when it’s inconvenient. Even if it's battling peak Costco Sunday shopping 🫣

That’s it.

I don’t always feel like doing the thing. Whether it's prepping my fruit, getting in a workout, or cleaning the kitchen at night. But my decisions aren't just about how I feel in the moment. They're about how I want to feel later.

And honestly? The trip wasn’t even bad. I was in and out in under 35 minutes, came home, washed my strawberries, chopped my pineapples, started lunch prep—and the best part? I felt so much lighter heading into the week.

Total time invested: 90 minutes.
Mental stress saved: infinite.

So here’s what I want to ask you:

How do you show up for yourself when you don’t feel like it?
Not in the highlight-reel way. But in the “I did the hard-but-worth-it thing” way.

Because let’s be clear: Motivation is fleeting. But values? They stick.

You’re not lazy. You’re just human.
But the more you practice showing up for yourself anyway—even in small ways—the more self-trust and momentum you build.

Most people don’t show up for themselves like this.
Not consistently.
Not when it’s inconvenient.
Not when it’s boring, uncomfortable, or invisible.

And I get it—because life is FULL. We're all tired. The “I’ll do it tomorrow” temptation is strong.
But here’s what I see as a coach, week after week:

The ways we let ourselves down (without even noticing)

• Skipping the grocery store because … you’re tired, then eating takeout all week and feeling bloated and behind
  
  

• Skipping your walk or workout because … the weather’s gross or your mood is low… and then wondering why your energy (or weight loss) feels stuck
  
  

• Not packing a lunch because … “you’ll figure it out later”… and ending up in a drive-thru and making a choice you normally would not have
  
  

• Not going to bed when you said you would because … you needed some “me time”—and now you’re groggy, craving sugar, and short on patience
  
  

• Telling yourself you’ll “start Monday” because ... for the fifth Monday in a row, you didn’t have a “perfect week”, so you wait a full week to start again
  
  

Each of these is a moment where we say our health or goals matter, but our actions tell a different story.

And here’s the kicker:
Every time you break a promise to yourself, even a small one, you erode self-trust.
You reinforce the belief that “you never stick with things” or “it never works for you.”
You make it easier to opt out the next time.
And you stay stuck in the cycle of wanting change but not living it.

So, how do we fix this?

Here’s what works (and what I coach my clients on)

1. Stop waiting to “feel like it.”
   Motivation is not a prerequisite. It’s a result.
   Action breeds motivation, not the other way around.
   Decide to be ready - don’t wait for a feeling
   
   

2. Anchor to your values, not your moods.
   I didn’t go to Costco because I felt inspired. I went because I value structure,
   healthy food, and convenience during my week.
   What do you value? What matters long term?
   
   

3. Make the action smaller.
   Too tired to meal prep? Can you wash some fruit or boil a few eggs?
   Or call in an order to a meal prep company for an easy week?
   Or order groceries - Instacart, Amazon Fresh, Walmart, Kroger, so many options
   Don’t have time for a full workout? Walk for 10 minutes.
   It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Most of the time, something is enough to
   keep the ball rolling.
   
   

4. Stack habits to reduce resistance.
   Put your walking shoes next to the door. Prep lunch while you clean up dinner. Put a sticky note on your phone with your bedtime goal. Make it harder to forget, easier to follow through.
   
   

5. Track the WIN, not just the task.
   Start noticing how you feel after you follow through. Less stressed? More energized? That’s your feedback loop. That’s the good stuff. These are the “feelings” you will start looking for that will elevate your success.

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Here’s your challenge this week:

Choose one thing you’ve been putting off.
Do it—even if you don’t feel like it.
Then check in with how you feel afterwards.

Build that trust with yourself again. It’s worth it.

And if you’re reading this thinking,

“I know what to do… I just don’t do it,”
Then maybe it’s time for some support.

This is exactly what I help my clients with.

✨ Creating realistic systems that fit your actual life
✨ Staying consistent even when things get busy or hard
✨ Learning how to build trust with your body and your habits
✨ Feeling good in your skin without relying on motivation or willpower

If you’re ready to stop starting over and finally make changes that stick, let’s chat.
👉 Book a free call with me here

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P.S. You don’t need to do everything perfectly. You just need to keep showing up—especially when you don’t feel like it.

That’s where the change happens.

Stay Empowered!

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